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  • It really depends on a lot of factors. The following questions are not ones I’m expecting you to answer, but questions that would affect this decision: What kind of trauma was it? How long ago was it? Is it likely the trauma could reappear on a second visit (example: if it was due to a war and the war is still ongoing, going back would not be a good idea)? What is the reason for going back, is it to overcome the fear, face it head on, etc.?

    Depending on the severity of the trauma, this may be an answer best looked into with a professional, who can guide you on when and how it would be best to go back, or if going back is even something you should do. It simply may not be a good idea to do, at all. Or the way in which you originally planned to do it may not be the best idea for one reason or another that you may have overlooked but a professional could point out.

    If it’s not that severe of a trauma that you feel needs a professional, I think the other person here is right, to go with someone, someone who you can trust to confide this with and tell them your plan. That you had something traumatic happen and you want their presence for moral support. But be careful not to expose them to the same sort of trauma too if the area is still dangerous enough for that to happen a second time.


  • I’m personally not familiar with AMV Hell but, going to cover this in spoiler to explain the exact scene from Golden Boy and give a summary of the show’s premise so you can compare:

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    The whole Golden Boy anime is 5 episodes long and revolves around this guy, Kintaro, who is obsessed with women but he is also quite oblivious. The show follows him as he rides his bicycle around Japan doing odd jobs and meeting various women. In episode 4, Kintaro is riding his bicycle and a motorcycle passes him at a high speed and it turns out to be a very sexy woman riding the motorcycle. Kintaro follows her and eventually learns that she has a hideout where she keeps her motorcycle and she is, as literally as she can, having sex with her motorcycle. Well, more like getting off, sexually, to the motorcycle in an almost nude way, as she continually pulls the accelerator. She tells Kintaro that men just don’t do it for her like her motorcycle can.




  • Depends on what you’re looking for.

    For me, I loved Golden Boy for the humor and stories. It’s not really like others with lots of fighting and violence. It’s 18 because of the mature sexually suggestive themes of the show. The second to last episode is the most sexually explicit with a woman doing stuff on a motorcycle and the first episode has tons of female body imagery that is very exaggerated.

    So far everyone else here seems to share the anime that is more focused on fighting.





  • It was hard for me to start too and still is, to be truthful.

    But what I do is set a small goal and stick with it.

    I reallllyyyyyy don’t want to go to the gym after work, but I force myself to go for just 30 minutes. When I first started, I would just ride the exercise bike at the gym for 30 minutes. That quickly turned into a competition, of sorts for me. Sure, I just hit 30 minutes, but I’m at 9.7 miles, why not stick around to hit 10 miles?! Oh I just hit 10 miles, but I’m at 34 minutes…might as well stay on for one more minute….etc.

    I have a small bit of OCD (for lack of a better term) so I use that against me for my benefit in this way.

    But even if you don’t have that OCD-like mentality, you can still go for 30 minutes and do something and then you might get into the zone and branch out to other exercises. Even if it’s not a gym, it can happen with other things. Go for a hike somewhere may have you thinking you should start biking and come back here for the trail that is perfect for biking. You go to the local park to walk and start seeing people doing other exercises that intrigue you. Etc.

    I have moved from exercise bike to stairs now. I do 10 minutes and I am sweating and then go do some weights. I have the momentum at that point to actually lift and hit real goals, stretching beyond what I am comfortable with because now drenched in sweat and okay with pushing myself further to really extend that burn. Whereas before I would try lifting and I wouldn’t actually do much because I didn’t feel comfortable pushing myself too far. Something to do with sweating for me, I guess.

    But as I said, I still have days where I don’t want to. And I will sometimes just go for 30 minutes. And that’s fine! Staying active and moving should be the goal to keeping out of being in the slumps.

    Just get out there and do something and set a small goal for yourself to start.











  • Biting my nails. I’m not even sure how or when I quit it.

    I remember when I was younger and one of my mom’s cousins told me she would buy me anything I wanted if I stopped biting my nails. I think it was around that time I did but I’m not totally sure. I do remember that I didn’t see her often but the next time I saw her, I did stop and she didn’t buy me the LEGO set I asked her for.

    I see her every now and then (this is like 15-20 years later) and I’m always tempted to ask her about that old ass LEGO set she never got for me that I really wanted 😂