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Cake day: November 24th, 2023

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  • Does therapy actually help you if you know what your problem is?

    Yes, then you’re already steps ahead. For some people, figuring out what the problem is, already takes therapy, but it doesn’t end there. If you know, what the problem is and know how to fix it, you probably don’t need therapy. But if you know what’s wrong but can’t fix it alone, that’s what therapy is for.

    Also knowing that they’re talking to you because it’s their job feels like the whole thing is a lie and a waste of time.

    Only if you somehow follow the idea, that the therapist has to like you. That is not the case. It is their job and that’s okay. You’re also just talking to them because it’s their job. Why would you open up to a stranger otherwise?

    I mean you should get along together somehow, but you don’t have to be friends with your therapist.


  • Very self-aware comment.
    I have to agree, we’re very easily swayed, especially as teenagers.

    I had to suffer through a lot of rejection by girls I was interested in as a teenager, and also pondered some very misogynistic ideas, that I ultimately rejected only because I couldn’t bring myself to extend that hate to the one girl that ever loved me back for a while. Otherwise I could have totally turned to a sort of incel (before I knew that term even existed), some of the ideas I came up with are shockingly close to what I later learned that they believe.

    I can only imagine how easy it would be to fall into that trap, when you’re feeling frustrated and are being bombarded by Tate and the likes through the self-enforcing ideology machinery that is social media.

    We really need to teach young men a healthier way to deal with the frustrations that occur in life and lead a better example of how to deal with negative emotions other than turning to hate like that.




  • Don’t understand why you’re being downvoted. Because you’re exactly right. They just finished school and very likely don’t have a job. Very likely they are going to want to study later on and are spendig their time between the final school exams in spring and the start of the winter semester at university travelling, as man young Germans do.

    Vacation time in Europe is a lot better than the US, but this has nothing to do with it. Depending on your contract you could get 30 days off in Germany, and since you don’t have to count the weekends or state holidays, if you work a regular Mo-Fr work week, you can arrange for a 6 week trip, but they had already spent 5 weeks in Thailand and NZ, were planning 5 weeks in Hawaii and then keep going other places. The way they are travelling is out of reach for most employees in Germany and it’s a once in a lifetime opportunity for many.


  • This is just an example of course. Succession can look differently and lead to very different results, depending on where exactly it is happening.

    I’d also argue, that leaving your garden alone to let succession run its course is not neccessarily the ideal to strive for. Even simply speeding up the process to get to the final stage isn’t.

    Gardens are a very different sort of ecosystem from an extended woodlands area and there are many ways to use them for human recreation and as a habitat for many species, that even exceed the biodiversity of the potentially naturally occuring ecosystem.
    A trimmed suburban lawn is just one of the worst options.







  • It’s no surprise, they find lead in there. Our analytics have become crazy sensitive, we can detect the tiniest amounts of chemicals nowadays.

    That’s why it’s very important to check articles like this one for what actually was found in order to avoid uninformed sensationalizing.

    Reading through this article makes you wonder how Washington came up with their regulation for lead levels and why it differs so much from the FDA’s standards.

    Even if we know, that no amount of lead can be considered ‘safe’, we have to have a regulation, of what is allowed and what we deem acceptable. Routinely testing products against these standards of course has to happen, otherwise, they’d be pretty useless.