you’re asking the refugee who just immigrated, is learning the local language, and may not have had as much exposure to web banking systems and MFA and many aspects of cybersecurity to figure out how to set this up and manage it well without accidentally losing access.

you’re asking the old retiree who has no family left to help them and doesn’t understand technology very well but understands how to open the shortcut to the banks website and check their texts to suddenly understand a much more complex system than they’re used to.

you’re asking the young adult whose school didn’t teach them about technology and they were too poor to have much of their own to instantly learn about even more tools and apps on top of trying to adjust to using technology in general.

I’m not saying that improving security or moving towards a more secure baseline is bad, but for some critical public services security absolutely does not always trump accessibility. cybersecurity and technology education is more necessary at all levels and must equitably taught, but that will take time, resources, and effort. there are ways to improve security without compromising accessibility.

you underestimate how bad a lot of people are at using technology. something like banking can be a necessity and must be accessible to all. many banks should encourage more secure MFA but i understand why they can’t require it.

Bitwarden as Vaultwarden enables TOTP.

thats very valid and understandable. im not gonna try and tell you how to fix it because i genuinely have no clue, but i will say i think that scene from Avatar The Last Airbender about clogged chakras is very enlightening. The past two years i was in a terrible, slow depression spiral due to burning myself out of tech and cybersecurity. I stopped working on my homelab, i stopped doing pretty much all my schoolwork, and my work was suffering. i barely managed to maintain my work enough to not get put on an improvement plan, but my boss was definitely picking up on my poor performance. about a year ago i got into raving and that was grear except for that fact i dove into it as a form of escapism. i threw myself into partying, drugs, and sex to procrastinate on and shirk my responsibilities. this led to me failing all my classes for what was supposed to be my last term of uni, and it just consumed my entire life. combined with an unhealthy relationship that brought me to my breaking point, i had to accept that something was off and seriously wrong. i was developing a bad drug abuse problem and was isolating myself more and more from the people that loved me, which was something i was used to and would do periodically. combined with the US imploding in on itself, my mental health was quite possibly the worst it had since I was a young kid, and maybe even the worst its ever been.

these past few months I’ve realized im trans and have begun making progress on transitioning. i opened up to my parents about my drug abuse and transitioning, and as ive gone along this journey it just feels like more and more who i am is unclogging and flowing downstream. I’m happier, more content, and actually handling my responsibilities (mostly). im getting more involved in ny local community so that the headlines don’t kill me as much, and I’m consistently communicating and reaching out to the peopke that are important to me. these past few days even ive finally started working on tech projects again for the first time in 2 years and am happy to say my homelab is getting the TLC it deserves. i am also finally looking into getting medicated for my ADHD, although time will tell if I stick with it as I personally love the raw, unfiltered chaos that is my brain (but im gonna give it a fair shake).

I guess im writing this to say that I don’t know what will help you, but it sounds like you got a lot of gunk gumming up and blocking your pools of flowing water. i haven’t a clue what will help clear that up tbh; maybe its medications, maybe it’s your environment, maybe you also are in the closet without realizing it. but i think if you can at least start to figure out whats blocking you, then the path forward will unfold itself. i wish you the best of luck on your joruney, friend. It’s dangerous to go alone, take this: <3

ETA: i still rave, party, fuck, and do drugs. I just don’t let it consume my everything. I wouldn’t have figured out who I was without raving, it was just a necessary step in my journey that has brought me to very high highs and very low lows.

as someone with mental illness, you sometimes have to try to find the silver linings. is it good, beautiful, or romantic when i bedrot and am not taking care of myself? absolutely not. but is it an enjoyable, romantic, and intimate experience to bedrot with someone else? yes, yes it is.

also there is a certain beauty to the aesthetic of someone with ADHD no-lifing a project and creating something incredible. that chaos can be lovely even if it derails the rest of your life

or it turned out so great that when presented the opportunity they were excited to do so

it pisses me off so much. what do you mean theres no way to set the priority of nameservers or to force them to be resolved in a specific order? no i don’t want a public nameserver thats only there as backup to take precedence over my local nameserver thats necessary for kerberos to work!

I think the biggest problem is that developing each other underlying subsystems without the rest is a hassle. As such no one has come up with a non-systemd dbus replacement. But there is a lot that can be replaced. There are some systemd services i just turn off immediately woth new installs and use something else because they’re such dogshit (looking at you resolved).

god i fucking hate systemd-resolved

if sysv init or open rc are ed and sed, then systemd is Visual Studio or Pycharm; they have some functionality that overlaps but they scopes of what they do are completely different

So people hate on systemd because they interpret it as an init system thats gone too far and has thus violated the unix principle. in reality systemd is an entire suite of tools based around a very feature rich and robust service management suite that also includes an init system. there is something to be said about the Linux ecosystem’s reliance on systemd, but there are no comparable tools. this is why Arch uses systemd. if you dont want to use systemd, you can use distros like Arco Linux; however currently Gnome no longer works on Arco

A) you don’t know someone’s situation so don’t pass judgement when there are very valid reasons theg may not have the time of energy, as if mental health isn’t a valid reason already

B) soaking for 5 minutes is definitely not the same getting a good long soak

I actually have a hybrid setup. My public DNS and my mail server are in the cloud as those are too important to risk going down. I also have a FreeIPA replica in the cloud to help manage them. Then I set basically everything else up in my homelab because I don’t care if roundcube goes down so long as IMAP and SMTP still work.

dont forget commercial cookware to go along with it.

your mother-in-law’s fine china definitely won’t like a commercial dishwasher that’s for sure

ive worked food service and wish i could say the same. I’d be all over dishes of i had at least a full power overhead sprayer. preferably with a 3 compartment sink but what i really want is the sprayer. the sprayer makes dishes fun.

!lemmysilver

Just make sure to either read the Arch News so you can avoid most breaking changes, or use paru as your AUR helper as it has a config option to automatically pull the news for you

There’s an infinite amount of numbers within a range but the limits of the range are still constraints. What’s to say the end of our lives is a constraint on the multiverse? Maybe within a local minima of historically similar universes one individual’s life could be so important that theres a shared constraint, but I kinda doubt that that exists across the entire multiverse. But really we will never know. As such your partner isn’t wrong still, they just have to take an agnostic approach that there’s no way to know. But it’s not wrong to choose to believe that your deaths are not constraints on the entire multiverse, that’s just their interpretation.

trauma and ptsd cannot be used interchangeably at all. PTSD is a specific mental condition documented in the DSM-5 and recognized by doctors that have multiple variations and nuances that must be taken into account. Trauma is an overarching term to describe experiences that have had a significant and profound impact on someone’s mental state and health. I’m not usually a crazy stickler for word usage but this is just horribly imprecise language. You can have trauma without having PTSD. They are not the same thing and should not be treated as such.

Nuclear is the best and most sustainable energy production long term. You get left with nuclear waste which we are still figuring out how to deal with, but contemporary reactors are getting safer and more efficient. Not to mention breeder reactors can use the byproducts of their energy production to further produce energy.

It is not